What do we mean when we say soft?
Feminine? Tender? Emotional? Vulnerable? All reclamation and revaluation of femininity is political, difficult, and tough in a patriarchal society. All femmes are hard femmes, even when they are soft.
Softness can be used as a weapon, if we learn to embrace our numerous emotional vulnerabilities as valid, productive, and allow them to take space in our bodies without tormenting us.